What can I do to regulate my postpartum mood when I’ve just had a baby and I’m very depressed?

Read more: What is your emotional state after giving birth to a child? Previously, I saw a video online, a mother recorded her wonderful life after giving birth, almost every day is full of smiles, in the matter of parenting is a rare state of emotional stability and relaxation, while the comment section is almost all do not believe that there are mothers after giving birth can maintain such an emotional state.For many mothers after the birth of a baby, the mood is very low, except for a brief moment of joy. So it’s good to not have a postnatal emotional breakdown. So, what should mothers do when faced with the problem of low mood after giving birth? How can we regulate our moods after childbirth?

Here, let’s first understand the reasons why mothers experience low moods after giving birth to a baby.

1. Mood swings caused by hormonal changes in the body.

Hormonal changes can directly affect our emotional perceptions, so for the problem of postnatal depression, a large part of it is caused by a precipitous drop in the body’s hormone levels after the birth of a baby. When the hormones in the body return to normal levels, the emotional state will also stabilise.

2. Identity barriers due to personal identity changes.

Some mothers suffer from mood disorders due to a change in their identity as a mother, either because they don’t know how to be a good mother or because they can’t fully accept the reality of being deprived of almost all their time by parenting. When our identity is at odds with reality, it is easy to get caught up in a downward spiral of emotions.

3. Deepening emotions caused by surroundings and loved ones.

Having a baby consumes a lot of energy, parenting deprives a lot of time, and a mother’s hard work without the recognition and understanding of those around her can also deepen the development of bad moods.

Therefore, postnatal depression, depression, irritability, anxiety and other negative emotions are all very normal psychological and emotional states, and mothers need not be overly self-doubting about this, but rather put more psychological pressure on themselves. If you want to adjust your emotional state, we must first face up to our emotional needs and not suppress and deny our emotions.

In this regard, we can try the following ways to adjust to channel their bad emotions: 1.

1、Find the identity of the role of “mother”.

Many mothers are maladjusted to the change in their role after childbirth, and it is easy to fall into a state of self-doubt, recognition and denial, so mothers must first learn to truly identify with their role as mothers. In this regard, we can communicate with other mothers and learn some parenting knowledge to gradually gain a sense of identity.

2. Find someone to talk to and listen to.

Postpartum depression is something that needs to be seen and confided in. Repressing your emotions will not make the situation better, postpartum depression is not pretentious, sometimes ours is often an object to pour out to the fullest. So, when you are unhappy, you must find someone to talk to, and if necessary, find a counselor can, we need positive emotional affirmation.

3、Learn to divert your emotional attention.

If you find yourself caught up in a certain emotional whirlwind again, you must be conscious of not letting yourself fall deeper into it, as it is easy to let the negative emotions continue to breed. We can interrupt our bad thoughts and do something else to divert our attention, and then look back later to see that many things are not as serious and scary as we thought.

4. Refuse to be a 100% perfect mother.

Mothers are ordinary people and cannot be perfect, but many of them tend to get caught up in all kinds of self-doubt and are prone to break down and self-denial if they don’t do a good job. What we need to understand is that everyone wants to be a perfect mum, but we also need to let go of our overly high expectations of ourselves and allow ourselves to make mistakes and allow ourselves to be bad and get better little by little, rather than just being 100% flawless mums.

Important note: The postnatal period can lead to a state of low mood due to changes in your body’s hormone levels, identity barriers of personal transformation, and the influence of your surroundings and the behaviour of your loved ones. This is a normal situation and to improve the moodiness, we need to know how to find the identity of motherhood, find someone to talk to, divert our emotional attention and let go of the obsession with perfect motherhood.