Children around the age of puberty are unusually sensitive, but not without traces, and it is important to pay more attention to these situations

It’s only been a month or so since school started, but I’ve heard several bad news.A 13-year-old girl jumped straight off a high building because her mother reprimanded her a few times, losing her young life and leaving her mother with endless remorse and a life that is worse than death and bewildered by tears.

The same 13-year-old girl, who was also scolded by her parents for not completing her homework, resolutely chose to run away from home and went to the home of a foreign Internet friend whom she had never met. It was a good thing that the friend didn’t expect her to be so young and sent her straight back.

There was also a 12-year-old boy who was addicted to playing mobile games and waved his still-young fists at his parents because they took his phone away, showing no mercy.

Around the time of puberty, children’s personalities are largely formed, but they are still not old enough to be mature, yet they are eager to be independent, want to break free from their parents and are more susceptible to peer influence.

Therefore, when these conditions arise in children, they need the persistent help and intervention of parents, family and friends to consolidate the self-confidence they have built up day by day.

1. Loneliness.

Around the age of puberty, children are most likely to gain and lose friendships, and they continue to care most about them.

Their happiness comes from being with their peers, but it is also a source of frustration. Ostracism from classmates, unfair treatment by classmates, etc., can magnify a child’s momentary feelings of loneliness, helplessness and vulnerability.

Relationships with classmates and friends are more likely to influence a child’s feelings about school than poor grades at this time. If there are no friends or if there is constant conflict and ostracism at school, the child may become bored with school.

Therefore, parents must be vigilant when their child complains of being lonely, or when their child does not get along at school, and teach them how to communicate effectively, how to share, and how to deal with various situations that may arise, in order to prevent problems before they occur.

2. Low self-esteem.

Low self-esteem has little to do with whether or not a child is talkative or extroverted, and it is not necessarily the case that an introverted child has low self-esteem. Parents need to observe the child’s own state.

If the child is comfortable and at ease, then parents should not be too nervous.

If the child is always nervous and fearful of unfamiliar situations and things, has a relatively small ‘safe zone’ and is slow to adapt, he will have fewer opportunities to behave in public and will receive little attention from school and peers, often missing out on many opportunities.

More importantly, in this era of rapid and fierce competition, children who are slow to adapt inevitably develop an inevitable inferiority complex, which leads to doubts about their self-image. …… These are the things that parents need to focus on urgently.

Parents need to teach him how to fight for and seize his opportunities and rights; they also need to help him learn to understand the specific methods and techniques of public performance, and preferably take the child on the spot to guide him out of every dilemma, and the child will slowly find his own self-confidence.

3. Poor Emotions.

Sudden emotional outbursts and lulls are inherent characteristics of children around the age of puberty. Because they are trying to become independent, frustration and sadness are inevitable.

Therefore, when a child is in a poor mood, parents should, as far as possible, refrain from confronting him or her and playing hardball. This is because children at this age are often the most hard-hearted towards their own parents. They can easily hit their parents where it hurts and even hurt themselves in order to hurt their parents, which can be called “steady and accurate”.

In fact, parents should teach their children how to express their anger, annoyance and depression without screaming, dropping things and so on. Parents should use techniques to help their children learn how to calmly look at irrational thoughts in their heads and seek effective communication to resolve them.

Of course, if this is how parents lose their temper on a regular basis, there is no need to blame the child for venting his or her emotions in this way.